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How To Flirt In Spanish – How Not to Sound Creepy

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Do you have a crush on that cute Cuban girl in your class? 

Or you’ve met a gorgeous tango dancer in a club in Buenos Aires, and you can’t stop thinking about her?

Flirting is not an easy skill to master. Flirting in Spanish is a challenge on its own. What to say to sound smooth and not cheesy? 

I’ll do my best to help you.

How to Flirt in Spanish – Basic Vocabulary

Your classroom Spanish will hardly prepare you for the time you finally meet the girl of your dreams or the future love of your life. So if you are looking to build your Spanish romance vocabulary, check out what I’ve selected just for the occasion:

  • πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ amar / querer – πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ to love
  • πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ gustar – πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ to like
  • πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ coquetear – πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ to flirt
  • πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ ligar – πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ to hit on
  • πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ halagar – πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ to flatter
  • πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ un piropo – πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ a compliment
  • πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ enamorarse – πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ to fall in love
  • πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ estar locamente enamorado – πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ to be smitten 
  • πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ estar hechos el uno para el otro – πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ to be a perfect match
  • πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ invitar a salir – πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ to ask out
  • πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ guapo/a / estupendo/a / apuesto/a – πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ good-looking, attractive, handsome
  • πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ precioso/a – πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ precious
  • πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ mijita rica / muΓ±eca / mami / mamasita / mina – πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ a hot girl 
  • πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ mijito rico / mino / guapetΓ³n – πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ a hot guy
  • πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ amor a primera vista – πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ love at first sight
  • πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ tener un flechazo  – πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ to have a crush
  • πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ estar loco por alguien – πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ to be crazy about someone
  • πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ romper el corazΓ³n – πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ break someone’s heart
  • πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ novio/a, pololo/a (Chile) – πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ boyfriend / girlfriend
  • πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ salir, pololear – πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ to date
  • πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ prΓ­ncipe azul – πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ Mr. Right
  • πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ media naranja – πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ a better half
  • πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ alma gemela – πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ soulmate 

That is quite a useful list to have, donΒ΄t you think?

As with all the new vocabulary you want to learn, the best way is to use it communicatively, making meaningful sentences.

πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ Te amo / te quiero.
πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ I love you.

πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ Me gustas mucho.
πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ I like you a lot. 

πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ Me estoy enamorando de tΓ­.
πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ I am falling in love with you.

πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ Estoy enamorada de Juan.
πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ I am in love with Juan.

πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ Carla y yo somos novios.
πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ Carla and I are a couple. 

πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ Estoy saliendo con Pablo. 
πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ I’m dating / going out with Pablo. 

πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ No sigas buscando un prΓ­ncipe azul.
πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ Stop looking for Mr. Right.

πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ Eres muy guapa / linda / hermosa. – to a woman (the feminine form of adjectives) 
πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ You’re very good-looking / pretty / beautiful

πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ Eres muy guapo / atractivo / apuesto – to a man (the masculine form of adjectives) 
πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ You are very handsome / attractive.

πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ Estoy loco por tΓ­.
πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ I’m crazy about you. 

πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ Cada dΓ­a te quiero mΓ‘s.
πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ I love you more and more every day.

πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ Me rompiste el corazΓ³n.
πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ You broke my heart.

πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ Eres el amor de mi vida.
πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ You are the love of my life.

πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ Veo que te gusta Francisca. ΒΏPor quΓ© no la invitas a salir?
πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ I see you are into Francisca. Why don’t you ask her out?πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§

πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ Si quieres ligar con Carla, asegΓΊrate de vestir bien. 
πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ If you want to hit on Carla, make sure to dress well. 

How to Flirt in Spanish – Common Pick-up Lines

Let’s imagine you’ve been invited to a birthday party. Or you’re in a bar with some friends. 

This hot girl is sitting right in front of you, and you can’t take your eyes off her. Go for it!

But how to make the first step and approach her? And most importantly, what to say in Spanish? 

πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ Test Your Spanish Knowledge πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ

Here’s a bunch of alternatives:

πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ Me gustas mucho.
πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ I like you a lot. 

πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ Tienes una sonrisa muy linda.
πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ You have a beautiful smile.

πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ Me encantan tus ojos.
πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ I love your eyes.

πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ Eres la mujer mΓ‘s hermosa que he visto.
πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ You’re the most beautiful smile I’ve ever seen.

πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ Pareces una chica encantadora.
πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ You seem like a lovely girl.

πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ Β‘Este vestido te queda estupendo!
πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ This dress looks gorgeous on you!

πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ ΒΏAlguien te ha dicho alguna vez lo guapa que eres?
πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ Has anyone ever told you how hot you are?

πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ ΒΏOye guapa, te gustarΓ­a bailar conmigo?
πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ Hi gorgeous, would you like to dance with me?

πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ ΒΏTe puedo invitar un trago?
πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ Can I buy you a drink?

πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ ΒΏMe puedes dar tu nΓΊmero de telΓ©fono?
πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ Can you give me your phone number?

πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ ΒΏQuieres salir conmigo a comer o algo?
πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ Do you want to grab a bite or something?

πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ Me encantarΓ­a volver a verte. 
πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ I would love to see you again.

πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ No puedo dejar de pensar en tΓ­.
πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ I can’t stop thinking about you.

πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ ΒΏEstΓ‘s saliendo con alguien?
πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ Are you dating anyone?

πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ ΒΏTienes novio/a?
πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ Do you have a boyfriend / girlfriend?

πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ ΒΏPor quΓ© no me presentas a tu hermana?
πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ Why don’t you introduce me to your sister?

Nice! You’ve been smooth like an oiled boob πŸ˜‰

Remember, once you manage to get that girl’s attention, it is good to have some Spanish conversation starters at hand. Don’t worry about your accent or poor grammar. The fact that you are a β€œgringo” might actually seem hot to her. 

Flirting in Spanish – Romantic Pick-up Lines 

Women love to be flattered and complimented. So don’t be afraid to throw in some romance into your β€œrecipe for love.” 

Hopefully, you find inspiration in the lines below:

πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ ΒΏEstΓ‘s perdida? Porque al cielo hay un largo camino desde aquΓ­.
πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ Are you lost? Because heaven’s a long way from here.

πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ Tienes unos ojos tan bellos, que podrΓ­as curar hasta a un ciego.
πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ You have such pretty eyes that you could even heal a blind man. 

πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ TΓΊ eres la estrella que guΓ­a mi corazΓ³n.
πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ You are the star that guides my heart.

πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ OjalΓ‘ fueras bombero para apagar el fuego de mi deseo.
πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ I wish you were a firefighter to put out the fire of my desire.

πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ Hasta el sol siente celos de la forma en que brillas.
πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ Even the sun is jealous of the way you shine.

πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ Quisiera ser joyero para poder apreciar todos los dΓ­as un diamante como tΓΊ.
πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ I’d like to be a jeweler to be able to appreciate every day a diamond like you.

πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ Si la belleza fuera delito, yo te darΓ­a cadena perpetua.
πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ If beauty were a crime, I would sentence you for life. 

πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ Si el agua fuese belleza, tΓΊ serΓ­as el ocΓ©ano entero.
πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ If water were beauty, you’d be the whole ocean.

πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ Si besarte fuera pecado, caminarΓ­a feliz por el infierno.
πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ If kissing you were a sin; I’d happily walk through hell.  

If you pay attention to the last three phrases, you’ll notice that all of them use the same conditional structure. 

β€œFuese” and β€œFuera” are the two possible imperfect subjunctive forms of the verb β€œSer.” 

Flirting in Spanish – Corny Latin Pick-up Lines 

I know I told you not to be afraid to be romantic. But there is a thin line between being β€œromantic” and sounding β€œcheesy.”

Latinos, I hate to say, have a special β€œgift” for corny compliments. 

See for yourself:

πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ Mami, tΓΊ con tantas curvas y yo sin frenos.
πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ Baby, you’ve got all these curves, and I have no brakes.

πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ Mami, si cocinas tal como te mueves, me comerΓ© el menΓΊ completo.
πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ Honey, if you cook as well as you move, I will eat the entire menu.

πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ MuΓ±eca, ΒΏde quΓ© jugueterΓ­a te escapaste?
πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ Doll, what toy store did you escape from?

πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ Tus labios se ven solitos, ΒΏquerrΓ‘n conocerse con los mΓ­os?
πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ Your lips look lonely, would they like to meet mine?

πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ Dios debe estar distraΓ­do porque estΓ‘n cayendo los Γ‘ngeles del cielo.
πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ God must be distracted, for angels are falling from the sky.

πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ ΒΏAcabas de salir del horno? Β‘Porque estΓ‘s caliente!
πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ Did you just come out of the oven? Because you are hot!

πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ ΒΏHace calor aquΓ­, o eres tΓΊ?
πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ Is it hot in here, or is it just you?

It is so cheesy it is almost funny, isn’t it?

In case you’d like to learn more about this β€œhot” Latin language, I highly recommend listening to Reggaeton music. The lyrics of those songs are packed with β€œmamita”, β€œcaliente”, and β€œmovimientos sexi” (hot moves).

And before I forget: a little piece of warning for my lady readers.

If you happen to travel to a Spanish speaking country, get ready to be complimented a lot. Not always in a pleasant way, though. It has taken me a while to get used to construction workers shouting improprieties after me on the street. 

What used to be a surprising boost to my self-esteem, has quickly faded into a dreaded routine. My best advice is to ignore β€œpiropos callejeros” (sidewalk compliments).

How to Flirt Back in Spanish – It Takes Two to Tango

So, that brown-eyed Latino has had his eyes on you the whole night? OMG, he’s so hot!

Finally, he mustered some courage, and now he’s heading your way. Why did it take him so long?

If he invites you to dance, what are you going to say?

If your strategy is to play hard to get, act surprised. But if you like the guy, here are some handy replies:

  • πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ Encantada – πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ I’d love to!
  • πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ Llevo toda la noche esperando que me invitaras – πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ I’ve been waiting all night for you to invite me. 
  • πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ Ya pensΓ© que nunca me ibas a invitar – πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ I thought you’d never invite me. 
  • πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ Β‘Claro! AdemΓ‘s, me encanta esta canciΓ³n! – πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ Sure! Plus, I love this song!
  • πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ ΒΏPor quΓ© te demoraste tanto? – πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ What took you so long?
  • πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ Feliz! Si no me hubieras invitado tΓΊ, te habrΓ­a invitado yo! – πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ I’d be happy to. If you hadn’t asked me, I’d have asked you myself.
  • πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ No me gusta mucho bailar. Pero sentΓ©monos a conversar. – πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ I don’t like dancing too much. But let’s sit down and talk.

And they lived happily ever after….

Unwanted Flirting – How to Respond in Spanish

Well, not necessarily. You might simply not like the guy. Or find him creepy. Or be in a relationship with someone else. 

Whatever the reason, it is good to know how to say NO in Spanish if someone is hitting on you. 

Here’s how itβ€˜s done, depending on whether you want to turn them down nicely or are sick and tired with them stalking you:

  • πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ Me siento halagada, pero… – πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ I feel flattered, but…
  • πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ Eres muy tierno, pero…– πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ you’re very cute, but…
  • πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ Eres demasiado joven / chico para mΓ­ πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ You’re too young for me
  • πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ Eres como un hermano para mΓ­ πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ You’re like a brother to me
  • πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ No siento lo mismo por tΓ­ – πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ I don’t feel the same way about you…
  • πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ No eres de mi tipo – πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ You’re not my type
  • πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ Solo te quiero como amigo πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ I only like you as a friend
  • πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ No me interesa πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ I’m not interested.
  • πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ Estoy casado/a πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ I’m married
  • πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ Tengo novio/a πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ I have a boyfriend / girlfriend
  • πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ Estoy saliendo con alguien πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ I’m seeing someone
  • πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ No hablo con desconocidos – πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ I don’t talk to strangers
  • πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ Β‘DΓ©jame en paz! – πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ Leave me alone!
  • πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ Β‘No insistas! – πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ Don’t insist!
  • πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ Β‘PiΓ©rdete! – πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ Get lost!
  • πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ Β‘Deja de seguirme! – πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ Stop stalking me!

Applying the phrases above to real-life situations would look like this:

πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ
A: ΒΏQuieres bailar?
B: Gracias, pero eres muy chico para mi. PodrΓ­as ser mi hijo. 
πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§
A: Do you want to dance?
B: Thanks, but you’re too young for me. You could be my son. 

πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ
A: ΒΏTe gustarΓ­a salir conmigo?
B: Lo siento, pero tengo novio.
πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§
A: Would you like to hang out with me?
B: Sorry, I have a boyfriend. 

πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ
A: Oye, linda, ΒΏbailemos?
B: Lo lamento pero no bailo con desconocidos. 
πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§
A: Hey, babe, let’s dance!
B: Sorry, I don’t dance with strangers.

πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ
A: ΒΏTe puedo invitar a comer? Me encantarΓ­a conocerte mejor. 
B: Gracias, pero en realidad no me interesa. Siento decΓ­rtelo, pero no eres de mi tipo. 
πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§
A: Can I invite you out to eat? I’d love to get to know you better. 
B: Sorry, but I am not really interested. I’m sorry to say that, but you’re not my type. 

πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ
A: ΒΏMe das tu nΓΊmero?
B: Ya te dije mil veces que no. Β‘No insistas!
πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§
A: Will you give me your number?
B: I’ve already said no like a thousand times. Don’t insist!

πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ
A: MarΓ­a, eres el amor de mi vida. Β‘CΓ‘sate conmigo!
B: No puedo. No serΓ­a justo. Solo te quiero como amigo. 
πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§
A: MarΓ­a, you are the love of my life! Marry me!
B: I can’t. It wouldn’t be fair. I only like you as a friend. 

πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ
A: Macarena ΒΏpodemos hablar?
B: No tengo nada que decirte. Β‘DΓ©jame en paz!
πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§
A: Macarena, ΒΏcan we talk?
B: I have nothing to say to you. Leave me alone. 

It looks like Macarena just broke that guy’s heart, hasn’t she?

Speaking of which, emotions, feelings, and moods is another fun topic to improve your Spanish vocabulary!

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Joanna Lupa
Joanna Lupa
Polish by birth, Chilean by the turns of life. Has spent 20 years in that beautiful South American country working as a language teacher and translator. Has taught Spanish and English to students of all proficiency levels. Passionate about languages, books, and traveling. A mother of 2 trilingual teenagers.

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